DISCLAIMER: This is a more intense blog post than usual. So read it with caution and skip over it if need be.

Gossip. What a fun and irresistible activity to partake in. But Also, what a double edged sword and a mirror. Im guilty of it from time to time. and I think to a large degree, everyone on earth is. Its this activity thats viewed as “taboo” yet at the same time, everyone seems to participate in it.

Before I continue, let me get one thing straight. In my opinion, confiding in a friend about a problem or tension you have with someone else IS NOT GOSSIP. Its actually a form of being vulnerable and telling your truth (in my opinion). However, casting judgement and talking about someone and the way they live their life in a negative way, someone who’s done nothing to you personally to deserve that judgement, thats a gossip that i’ve seen quite frequently. It makes me sick to my stomach when I see people act this way. It also makes me question my own morality when its someone i’ve hung out with that acts this way. Thats exactly why when someone shows me this aspect of themselves, I head for the hills as fast as I can. But then wait, we aren’t out of the clear yet, because then I have to contend with the fact that a part of me was a match with this person, thats why we were friends. I dont ever cut people off without holding myself accountable for associating with them in the first place. Then once I acknowledge that, I can move on and make sure that I’ve learned the lesson.

Life is really, just a massive collection of continuous lessons, in the form of pointing us in the direction of where we want to go. But also, life is way too short to fill it with people who spend 80 percent of their time fixating on judging other people for how they live their life. And you should know that if someone is talking about other people in this way to you, then they’re definitely gossiping about you too. Be fierce with your boundaries, and know that you can curate a positive and constructive environment for yourself. You don’t have to fall victim gossip or shady behavior. You’re the driver of your own life and if your’e going through a situation that involves these dynamics, know that it’s happening for a reason. you’ll come out the other side of it, stronger than ever.

Love you,
Blake C